| Have you ever gotten into an argument with someone and had a fruitful, productive ending? You say what you need to say, they do too and you reach a conclusion. It is rare but it does happen. Other times there is a distinct winner. You (or they) bend them (or you) to their way of thinking or at least wear you down into submission. There is a certain amount of satisfaction in that but often it is hollow. Especially if you care for the other party. Other times, you argue and argue and lines are drawn not to be crossed. You get absolutely nowhere. I often question why we even participate in those exchanges. Mark Twain is credited with saying, “Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference” So when we find ourselves in an argument, stop for a second. Is there going to be a resolution to this? Am I willing to shape the outcome of my day around the feelings this other person is imparting upon me? And then ask am I right or just expressing a preference? Finally, does it even matter? Healthy debate is just that, healthy. Foolish arguing is also just that, foolish. Take care of each other. |
