| Getting fired sucks. I’ve been fired from 2 jobs in my life. I have also been fired by different clients throughout my 16 years in real estate. None of those things felt good. Sometimes I feel like the firing is justified. Other times I feel like I have been made a scape goat. One thing that always happens (at least for me) is a period of intense reflection. I ask myself these questions: What steps led to that ultimate decision? What did I do to contribute to that? What decisions did I make that I could have made differently to change the outcome? Am I satisfied with the outcome ultimately? Is there at least a little bit of relief in this? Does this now free me up to put my attention and resources into something more productive and with a better chance at success? How do I NOT get into this situation again? Is there any fallout that I need to mitigate in this situation? All these questions lead to more questions and, usually, self doubt, self loathing, worthlessness and some other bad feelings. Then I get over it and move forward stronger. I do lean on a few people initially and I can usually, within a week or two talk openly about the situation. I can almost always turn it into a life event that can maybe help others. Sometimes I can make into something that is a true catalyst for changing something–I got into real estate after being fired from teaching. Other times, it just makes for a good story. If you are going through this right now, reach out. I will listen. I will let you be mad, sad, indignant. I will advise if you want me to. I will make fun of the people that fired you if you want me to. Either way, I’ve been there. It sucks. But you are not alone. Remember these couple of quotes from Who Moved My Cheese “The quicker you let go of old cheese, the sooner you find new cheese.” “Old beliefs do not lead you to new cheese.” “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” |
