A good dude said something to me a few weeks ago and I have been thinking about it off and on since then. He said that (paraphrased) a life lesson kids need is to learn that they can do hard things. You never get better at anything, including life itself, if you only ever do whatever is easy. It is so true. Maturity is learning 1) you are capable, 2) you are empowered, and 3) you have help and resources.
I think these lessons come in waves sometimes. Often we don’t even know we are learning because these lessons are often clothed in, wait for it, hard times. We get through, we persevere and then look back and go, “I have no idea how I got through that”. Then, if we are smart, we reflect on exactly that. How did we get through it? This reflection helps us with the next hard thing. And it will come. We will always have something hard to deal with.
I love the idea of maturing by realizing we can do hard things. I love the idea of giving our kids freedom to learn this lesson while there is a safety net under them. I love the feeling of accomplishment when we complete a difficult task and look back on it with pride. You can’t be proud of something you didn’t work hard on. At least not in a way that makes a whole lot of sense.
What are some hard things you’ve accomplished? What are you proud of? It’s ok to share those and to be proud a little. It’s ok to share how you did something hard and got through it. People want to hear that. People want to be inspired. Share some back with me.
Have a great week!
Published June 6, 2023